IS THERE A CURE?
You have proved my heart; You have visited me in the night; You have tried me, and shall find nothing; I am purposed that my mouth shall not transgress.
Gossip or what is otherwise known in the Jewish community as lashon hara (the evil tongue), it is one of the all time spiritual & social epidemic catastrophes of mankind. It is impossible to read most newspapers, magazines or watch a TV program without hearing horrific gossip. There are full time “TV gossip shows”, featuring gossip as the drawing card, there are other shows like “Oprah” that prosper of the avails of the latest cutting edge gossip. But there are also “gossip ministries” working full time in most local churches, synagogues, social clubs. At times gossip comes right from the top Rabbi or Pastor, or their spouses, or, from prominent individuals (elders etc) who are unwilling to respond to the needs of the group, so they gossip and speak evil instead of being able to resolve the matters according to Scripture.
At times gossip is a result of severe infractions, adultery, fornication, stealing, lying or other high handed rebellion that is never formally blockquoteed or restored within the community. On occasion those who have the authority to blockquote and eradicate the problem refuse to do so, they don’t want to cause “division” or don’t even know how to confront the matter, so nothing gets done the problem goes underground, people talk and the gossip flies. The damage is disseminated like the flesh of a suicide bomber that gets blown all over town and has repercussions around the world.
Every one of us will either expend considerable resources to either extinguish gossip or flow with it.
Some years back a fellow was attending and a congregation that I was, he confessed to having regular sex with one of the girls in the congregation. When the gossip finally reached the girls parents they were devastated, the father came to me inquiring what he should do. Neither the boy or girl cared to be corrected because they didn’t feel it was wrong. The leader was approached to respond to the matter but did nothing, albeit the leader was a spineless individual, but also very unable and incapable to provide ministry or counsel to help correct the problem. A full time talebearer (gossiper) in the same congregation was on a mission to further Hellenize the congregation and gossiped against anyone whose “theology” wasn’t satisfactory to hers, again the leader was approached who said, “we’re aware of what is going on”, “we’re taking care of it”, but he did nothing, and in so doing promoted it.
After a Shabbat service the same leader was found gossiping with another individual, after my objections were made the third individual replied, “I’m just reporting it all to ” ” (the leader). She was one of the leaders “mules”, the leadership was running a full time gossip gestapo ministry. It is shocking to realize that is how some leaders choose to “minister” to their congregation, which is why so many congregations are lukewarm and indifferent to the work of the Ruach HaKodesh. There was little or no ministry in the congregation or “Presence” of the Ruach HaKodesh, instead of mispocha (family) living victorious lives together in Mashiyach, there were all sorts of indifferent social club attitudes about the Kingdom of Elohim and spiritual laziness.
Those who imbibe in gossip take their lead from Ahab and Jezebel.
Some of the most accomplished gossips are highly prized theologians and public orators, the private lives of these “ministers” is hellish, they use gossip against “the dissidents” as a function of their “ministries”. Theological models will never provide all the answers to life’s challenges, when the gossip flows people get trodden down, souls are brought low instead of being restored and brought to Mashiyach and the Kingdom. Gossip is dead religion’s finest hour, it is the ministry and pulpit of haSatan who brings accusation against those who need refreshing in the Truth, rather than targets of gossip because they are “different”.
Being originally from Vernon BC Canada (a small logging town of about 30,000) there was a very small community of those who are interested in the Ancient Paths of Mashiyach. My family moved to the area in the late 50′s and we hold many values that are different than mainstream religions. In the late 1940′s my Saba Lazarus Gorovenko began studying Netzarim Judaism. In 1962 he moved to Israel to pursue studies in Hebrew and Aramaic to learn the teachings of Yeshua Mashiyach. I was raised in a family that has always celebrated Shabbat and the Moedim. My Saba Lazarus was a Zionist, a lover of Jews and non-Jews alike and held that Torah and Mashiyach is for everyone, Jews and non-Jewish souls alike.
May grandfather was an avid Torah Talmid who published Torah studies and taught that Yeshua and the Ruach HaKodesh came to write Torah upon our hearts. Our beliefs made our family a minority many times over, as a result we have also been the target of gossip by those of other religions. Some folks hold us out to be a dangerous group of “legalists”, one slanderer from nearby Kelowna BC attended various meetings our family hosted and publicly chastened us for teaching the observance of the Commandments of YHWH. Ironically she and her husband became “Messyantic” so now the gossip has turned into telling others we are “anti-Semitic”. Over the years various people have confided that they were told I am a “womanizer”, a “fornicator”, a “druggie”, a “homosexual” and that my teaching is “dangerous”, and the list goes on.
Messianics, Christians, or those who prefer to call themselves “Believers” have brought much gossip, slander and accusation against me that I shudder to enter a congregation in the Province of BC. After requesting certain individuals levy charges so transgression for reconciled, they choose not to and simply walk away and continue their gossip ministries. They vilify people who holds ideas they disagree with. Maybe you’ve experienced the strange looks and bizarre questions from people who’ve heard gossip about you as well?
Certainly, there are times when talking about difficult matters serves a purpose, there are those who do not know how to deal with grievous situations and are pleading for help, in a round about way, the only way they know how, so they gossip out of desperation. There are many situations where individuals attempt to cover up egregious transgression they would otherwise never be accountable for, except that someone let the cat out of the bag. The problem is that there are way too many cowards and evil minded people in religious leadership, instead of ministering to the deepest needs of the soul, they join the choirs.
Certainly when there is little or no accountability pastors and elders feel “privileged” in their authority mandate to run roughshod over whosoever they wish, so there can never be any reconciliation. When issues are being blockquoteed and attempts are being made to correct the problem this communication is certainly not intended to hurt or to be cruel, but to restore, therefore such communication must be “in” Mashiyach, not in the flesh. All communication must serve for restoration and be within the body of Mashiyach acceptable conduct, and, among they who are equipped and capable of restoring a situation, rather than propagate slander as a fulltime “ministry”. The gossiper is the most needy of souls because they are simply proving to everyone that they do not have the spiritual resources to bring about reconciliation, or to love another person, or to minister to the needs of someone. The gossiper is selfishly ministering to their own needs, regardless of the level of gossip, and the original reason that it was being levied. The core of the problem is that the gossiper only has religious self awareness, rather than spiritual insights from a born-again or converted soul. Nevertheless, those who hear the gossip must realize the greater underlying needs of the person who is slandering and gossiping and provide counsel for both plaintiff and defendant.
There is not another soul on the planet who would read this website and agree with everything I write, or how I phrasing the words or quote verses from Scripture. Neither do I imagine any reasonable soul would expect me to agree with everything they think and teach, the point is, just because we disagree, doesn’t anyone the license to go about as a talebearer and gossiper. YHWH remembers none of the sins which He has forgiven us, I’ve made long and thorough confession of my failings and shared my shortcomings with many others and made restitution when necessary for my wrongdoings. However, those who are interested in gossiping down others have a specific agenda, some are threatened by having their own secret sins “found out” and their the gossip is only a decoy to deflect attention off themselves, other times the gossip is a desperate act to get a bit of recognition from their peer group. But in any case whoever is the known “wind bag” in your congregation is the one who hasn’t yet known the Love of the Father or had a true conversion. The gossipers are the ones who operate on religious energy because if they had known Y’shua they would be grieved and ashamed of what is coming out of their mouths.
One of my own “shortcomings” is that this nice Jewish boy isn’t yet married with children. That has been a target for gossip as I was slandered for as being a homosexual, I first heard it told me after a Shabbat service, I went home and wept. I never imagined how “Believers” could be so low, so cruel and so shameful as to put out such evil gossip against me. I was one time courting a sister for marriage in the late 90′s, I had met her around the same time I was being gossiped out of the Kehillath Tsion fellowship in Vancouver BC, (by the leadership clique). Our relationship became very stressed and couldn’t progress for a variety reasons, one being that a certain “Jezebel witch” was doing everything in her power to gossip against me. Rather than build a relationship, I had to spend time and resources to show the reason and source of the gossip against me.
Anyone involved in leadership soon learns how to handle conflicts, but it is especially difficult being a single person. It is easy to become a target for gossip when there is also a trail of disappointed Jezebel type women in my wake, who God told were supposed to be my wives. A Jezebel is a person who lies, manipulates, deceives and gossips their way through life to get what they want, to satisfy their needs, it’s a wicked way to live but in some communities it is popular and respectable to be an “alpha female” and regrettably these types of women are looking for a man to build their “ministries” with. Thankfully, I’ve only had two of such woman try to trash my name, my reputation and my ministry, but I’m sure their work has left an indelible mark in the hearts of many people.
Not too long ago a movie called the Passion was hitting all the theaters everywhere, in my opinion it’s a Hollywood orgy of idolatry and paganism, a cheap and pathetic flick. I highly doubt the integrity and sincerity of anyone who sees it as “teaching tool” or “witness” of the truth. It seemed to me that the Mother Harlot church was using it to entice people back into hell for the price of a movie admission. Maybe your impression of my perspective has just taken a turn for the worse? I don’t mean to make people feel uncomfortable, the fact of the matter is I also feel uncomfortable when I have to disagree with the crowd. However, just because we have to deal with uncomfortable situations, doesn’t give others the right to gossip about the source of their discomfort. I feel uncomfortable around those who promote the pagan lawless Jesus god and entice souls into Hellenism and I make that public, hence, a flock of Jezebels try to swoop down on their brooms and take me out. The fact of the matter is that I had a very strong check in my spirit when the Passion first came out, I was turned off and I counseled everyone I knew not to attend. Boy did I take a beating for that one, but then, the years go by and later I discovered that someone in a lead role was a pornography queen and a whore. Ok, so if you want to pay your money to support that kind of thing… “in the name of Jesus”, I will object to it, to the death. Give your money to the work of haSatan and call yourself a Christian. Spare me.
Imagine riding a luxury high-speed train and getting a text message from a good friend who informs you that terrorists have blown up the train bridge just ahead over Dry Gulch Canyon. You run to the conductor to stop the train, he laughs and says, no, no, that not true Sir… this train is bound for glory… How can you be so comfortable riding through life, when your friends need to jump the train and right now? If someone thinks I’ve missed something, I surely await thy wise and insightful correction, NO, relativism is a clear and present danger and it has massive paid readership who cannot distinguish their right hand from their left.
Rigorous disputation is essential, but gossip and stubbornness is idolatry. When someone vilifies their opponent instead of blockquoteing the issues, it means they have no interest in Truth. Ad Hominem arguments attack people to cause a distraction against finding out the truth of the matter.
“You shall not go up and down as a talebearer among your people:”
“If any one among you seem to be religious, and controls not his tongue, but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.”
Gossip is well tolerated among the ranks when it supports a religious agenda or when it comes right from its leaders. Gossip is evidence of haSatan having a place in one’s soul, it only brings about contempt, condemnation and torment, it cannot bring good fruits. In religious worlds it is common for Jews, Christians and Moslems to gossip against each others religion, each one thinks they are more justified and the other religions is wrong. Imagine what the world would be like if Jews, Christians and Moslems expended that time and energy to seek the Truth in Love and for the Common Good? Would it not be an incredible world?
The Origin of Speech
YHWH Elohim then formed the man [from] the dust of the ground,and He blew into his nostrils the breath of life. And so man became nefesh chayah.
The Targums (Aramaic commentary on Torah) teach that the nefesh chayahmeans “the spirit of speech.” Speech is the domain or platform which YHWH endows to His Creation as a means to communicate with Him and one another about His Kingdom. Just as we are given the freedom to do anything we want with our lives, we are also given the command of speech to direct our free will. The capability to speak is also found within the animal kingdom, but it is only mankind who is given the divine spiritual nature of speech, which is the action of putting our thoughts into speech and prayer. YHWH commands us to speak, to teach, to pray, to sing and to use our voices according to what is righteous and wholesome. Speech is the melding of spirit, soul and body into sound.
YHWH spoke the Universe into existence. His speech created all things and by this He teaches us the importance of speech. Whether people understand this or not, their speech is either destroying or building the Malchut Elohim. The first time speech is abused was in the Garden of Eden when the serpent lied, we all know that story. But what most don’t know is how to reconcile evil speech, only Kadosh (holy) speech can reconcile and triumph over evil speech. According to Jewish law all evil speech originates from the serpent, this is obvious when you think about how thoughts turn into speech, evil thoughts come from evil spirits, evil spirits bring their authority into play by evil speech which leads to evil actions.
The core of evil speech is a basic violation of Torah, first in thought, then in word, then in action, which is why a Torahless person can slander and gossip incessantly all while believing they are doing their fellow man and YHWH a big favor. It is a rare thing to hang out with religious people and not hear someone slandering or gossiping down theological opponents. Obviously if someone cannot train their own tongue, this proves they have a long way to go before they can take their thoughts into captivity in Mashiyach, this is the antidote to gossip and slander. We are to judge every thought that comes into our minds, and submit our thoughts unto YHWH, only after we have cleared our thoughts with the Master then our mouths can bring forth the good fruit of what He is putting upon our minds.
The Righteous Way to Resolve Gossip
“Moreover if your brother shall trespass against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone: if he shall hear you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear you then take with you one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the congregation: but if he neglect to hear the congregation, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever you shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever you shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. Then came Peter to him, and said, Master, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times? Y’shua said unto him, “I say not unto you, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
The FIRST STEP
“Go to the one who trespassed against you” -don’t send an email, letter, or a fax, go to the person, unless you’ve always communicated with them via the aforementioned methods. Show respect to your soul and theirs and base your reconciliation on the Unity of the Body of Mashiyach, not on personal needs regardless of how much you or they were offended. Hope for the best and trust and expect that the other soul will respond in Love.
“Tell him his fault between you and him” -don’t water it down be honest and clear, someone who offends you and who is violating Torah is also an offence to YHWH and His Mashiyach. It might well be that YHWH is raising up a situation to minister to someone who desperately needs your help. Hopefully at this point there will be reconciliation, if so, forgive each other and pray for each other and see that your relationship is strengthened. Take time to expose and crush the enemies plans against you, pray for one another, claim the promises of Scripture for one another, remind one another about the good things in your relationship, blessings that have been brought into both your lives because of your friendship. Seal all reconciliation in the Name of YHWH and His Mashiyach Y’shua and take back the ground that might otherwise have been taken from you. Agree to strengthen those who might have also been hurt by the gossip. Make an opportunity to share the blessings of being reconciled, but after this is done, never repeat the details of it, it’s not necessary to go back and beat yourself or someone else up over it.
If you’ve done your very best, ONE on ONE and the problem continues to escalate, i.e. the person accuses you or attempts to defend their flesh then…
The SECOND STEP
“Take with you one or two more” -this is a powerful and effective Torah principle which must not under any circumstances be skipped, those who do so will fall under YHWH’s judgment because they will have made themselves judge and jury over the situation, which is a nasty thing to do. At this point the matter is evaluated and judged by others, the alleged offender is brought before a beit din (house of judges, witnesses, counsel) to determine how to proceed. Two or three witnesses (the form of a Beit Din) will hold everyone accountable to YHWH in conversation and in conduct. There must be mature brothers or sisters who are “mighty in the Scripture” and fervent in the Spirit to be effective in this ministry. A chairperson for the meeting is appointed by the elders, whoever witnessed the offence must supply testimony of the matter before witnesses and the person being charged with misconduct. There must be a time and place for these parties to make full and truthful statements of the matter before all parties involved, excluding the accused from such a meeting is wickedness.
Hopefully at this point the matter will be reconciled with forgiveness and prayer for each other and it often is. At this meeting the enemy is exposed and YHWH willing there is a restoration of the relationship.
“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, you which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering yourself, lest you also be tempted.”
If you’ve done your very best and the one who made the offense escalates the accusations and gossip then..
The THIRD STEP
“Tell it to the congregation” -all the particulars of the gossip do not have to be made public, the person or persons of the matter should be NAMED and the assessment made public by two or three witnesses, who are mighty in the Scriptures and fervent in the Holy Spirit, before the congregation. The two or three witnesses who gave testimony will also be evaluated by the congregation, which effectively prohibits a peer group from running roughshod over others in the congregation. In other words, there are no dirty deeds done dirt cheap behind anyone’s back, the matter is serious and put on the table and to be dealt with accordingly and publicly.
“But if he neglect to hear the congregation, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican.” -If the offender goes against the congregation they must be asked to extricate themselves or repent publicly to be restored to the congregation. It is best if they bring their repentance to the congregation by stating their offense and what they’ve done to reconcile the matter. If the leadership of the congregation refuses to judge the matter righteously and take the second and third steps, and you’re the one being gossiped about, then YOU better be looking at the door and don’t even THINK of going back. Social clubs that do not Fear the Name of YHWH or choose to establish righteousness in their community is the LAST PLACE any of us need to be spending our time!
It’s not easy to deal with habitual gossipers, they mount attacks against everyone who attempts to curb their gossip. Anyone who habitually gossips about others demonstrates that they have given ground to haSatan. No one can know how deep the reprobation of their soul goes, they close themselves up and they gossip about others. It doesn’t matter how many “redeeming” things in the person or what office in the community they hold, unclean spirits can infiltrate a community and dry up all their potential fruits. When a person habitually gossips it indicates a very deep underlying problem within their soul. Gossip, or even idle talk or trivial talk, or jesting, or vain jesting is evidence of a reprobate soul. Mature communities do not tolerate gossip, each soul must be accountable to each another and nurture holy conversation. We all make mistakes but we when we do we are called to humble ourselves and accept necessary correction as from Mashiyach.
If you are a minority within a congregation of gossipers, or if you cannot find two or three witnesses who will go with you to correct a trespass or gossip, or if the person refuses to meet with you or with the witnesses then please do not expose yourself to abuse. In this case either you or the congregation is carnally minded and a decision must be made to change the scenery. The greatness of the Ruach HaKodesh (Set-Apart Spirit) within the soul of the righteous must not be subject to evil spirits otherwise laodicean (lukewarm) indifferent and carnal values begin to prevail. The neshama (spirit of man) must be elevated in each soul and treated with respect, but in so doing evil and hurtful activities must be judged and forbidden within each interpersonal relationship and within the entire community.
“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:”
“And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.”
“For every kind of beast, bird, serpent, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and has been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be. Does a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? Or a vine bear figs? So can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? Let him show out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.”
“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that you are called unto this, that you should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.”
1 Peter 3:9-11.
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of Elohim, whereby you are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be kind to one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as Elohim for Mashiyach’s sake has forgiven you.”
“And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. For everything is exposed and revealed by the light, and everything that reveals is light.”
“To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness unto all men. For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.”
“Draw nigh to Elohim, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double minded. Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. Humble yourselves in the sight of YHWH, and He shall lift you up. Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaks evil of his brother, and judges his brother, speaks evil of the Torah, and judges the Torah: but if you judge the Torah, you are not a doer of Torah, but a judge. There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who are you that judges another?”
Mankind does have a problem controlling the tongue, let’s face it. The only way to get the victory over this demon is to understand that YHWH strictly forbids gossip and we must all have a consensus that gossip will not be tolerated. Each one must be accountable for what comes out of our mouths.
“And Yeshua said, Are you also yet without understanding? Do you not understand, that whatsoever enters in at the mouth goes into the belly, and is cast out into the draught? But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.” Matthew 15:16-20
The underlying agenda of the gossiper is to destroy the Unity of Mashiyach and establish their own carnal authority within a community. A habitual gossiper proves their reprobate soul has fallen into the pit where the Ruach HaKodesh is unable to convict them of their sinning. The gossiper is deceived to think they are doing a service by “exposing” others, when the fact they are exposing their own demon infested world in which they live. If you are in a community where there is habitual gossip then you can be sure that the Spirit of YHWH is not being welcomed and there is likely also all the “fruits” that go with that, like self-depreciating people, negative people, super-spiritualism, super religiosity, lovelessness, loneliness, lack of natural affection. For example when people just show up for a meeting once a week and joke around with condescending words to each other then you know you are in fellowship with a bunch of reprobates. It’s just that simple.
What if the leader is using gossip and witchcraft to manipulate people in the congregation? Beware. False religious leaders are the greatest abominations of all, flee from them, be separate and touch not the unclean thing! Consider what YHWH has to say in His Word about such reprobate leaders. Our Father YHWH has levied numerous rebukes against His priesthood for such reprobate activities.
The Word of YHWH is quick and
P O W E R F U L
and sharper than any two-edged sword,
piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit,
and of the joints and marrow, and is a
discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Let all our conversation be Holy unto YHWH!
If we find ourselves in situations where the leadership is incapable or unwilling to blockquote the gossip coming from their own mouths, we must follow righteous counsel.
“Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, says YHWH, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says YHWH Almighty. Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of Elohim.”
2 Corinthians 6:17 – 7:1
Warn others, do not remain silent!
“But if the watchman sees the sword come, and blows not the trumpet, and the people are not warned; if the sword comes, and takes any person from among them, he is taken away in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at the watchman’s hand. So you, O son of man, I have set you a watchman unto the house of Israel; therefore you shall hear the word at my mouth, and warn them from me. When I say unto the wicked, O wicked man, you shall surely die; if you do not speak to warn the wicked from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at your hand. Nevertheless, if you warn the wicked of his way to turn from it; if he does not turn from his way, he shall die in his iniquity; but you have delivered your soul.”
All that hate me whisper together against me: against me do they devise my hurt.
And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, (i.e. the false Church system) that you be not partakers of her sins, (worldliness and reprobation) and that you receive not of her plagues.
YHWH be with you,
Baruch Ben Daniel