Tuesday 1st of December 2020
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…til it hurts

A new commandment I give unto you, That you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this shall all men know that you are my disciples,if you have love one to another.John 13:34-35

Love is the essential ingredient of life, without love, life on this planet cannot exist. It’s within the definition of LOVE itself that we understand love must be based on righteousness, otherwise it’s chaos. Most of us would rather make a detour before love causes us any pain, but we know we can’t, so what is love really then? Most have some sort of “God Consciousness”, whether we believe in and acknowledge YHWH as the Architect Who made all and sustains all, or not, most of us have a good idea that we’re not alone in this thing called life. Some call upon HaShem, or God, or “The Lord”, or Allah, or the Divine Presence, or the Higher Power, but most souls have a sense of the “Master” who is greater than us, within us, and outside of us all at the same time.

First of all let’s not pretend that you or I are some authorities on love, we’re not and we know it, but we all know a bit about love in our own way and that’s good enough to get this discussion going.

My beloved, let us love one another: because love is from Elohim; and whoever loves, is born of Elohim and knows Elohim. Because Elohim is love; and whoever does not love, does not know Elohim. 1 John 4:7-8.

Don’t you find that a remarkable statement? Love is from Elohim (God) and whoever loves is born of Elohim (God)… I do? I choose to believe that and I have good reason, if you don’t I won’t sweat it, I would LOVE to hear your take on this by the way if you have a better understanding that I.

Well as you can see I thought to write about “Love til it hurts” because I don’t know about you, but love has caused me a lot of pain in my life, a lot of hurt. I can’t say that it wasn’t love that caused it, it was all that I knew and all the love I thought that I had to give that at times came crashing down around me and left me in puddle. What can I say… stuff happens. But the interesting thing is that love seems to be perfected within suffering. It seems to me that without suffering or having to endure and push on through something that one really hasn’t begun to approach what love really is. Ok, you might be saying “duuuh” everybody knows that. Ok, then. Maybe this is where we have some common ground because the fact of the matter is I started writing a book about love and interviewed a wide assortment of souls and nobody could agree on a definition for love.

The safe definition is that “YHWH is Love”, that’s what a lot of folks run to for an explanation because love is a big one to try to wrap our brains around. I could give you all sorts of real life stories, meeting exceptional people who I though exemplified love and giving. One that comes to mind was a young Chinese man who rented a room from me, he learned English in China, he knew very little about Canadian culture. He cooked great Chinese food and in very short order his other roommates were full of compliments and anticipation of his culinary delights. My dear friend would work all day, stop off at the Chinese grocery on his way back from work and shlep 3 or 4 bags of groceries home several times a week and cook, cook, cook. One time I asked him, how long do you plan on keeping this up? You’re feeding the whole house, buying, preparing etc, day after day. He looked at me with a, what do you mean look. He thought he died and went to heaven when he arrived in Canada, work make lots of money and give to others, work and give that was his soul.

My roommate had never read a Bible in his life. Nobody told him about Yeshua or Jesus or the Love of the Father and yet he exemplified generosity, love and caring for others like I’ve rarely seen. We were his students when it came to generosity and giving. Amazing. I say that because such a selfless person is an inspiration to everyone, but there comes a time, truth be told that a young man such as this needs to be appreciated and supported by everyone else in the group house I was running. I was the big bad landlord who dropped the boom on the roommates by saying you want to eat his food then put some of your White Anglo Saxon Protestant welfare money on the table!!! I got mad. Who me?

Maybe you’ve poured out your heart and soul to someone and got zero in return? What do you do? Keep on playing Mr. Niceguy? Be a doormat? No, life just doesn’t work that way. The fact of the matter is that LOVE is universally applicable and we must all learn to love and accept ourselves, because this is part of the Word of YHWH, this is part of the Nature of Mashiyach within us and this is the Truth.

So then there is a dichotomy between giving our love to others and receiving it back from them, and giving our love to YHWH and receiving and experiencing His love towards us. Love my friends isn’t being stupid about anything or being careless, it’s about Justice and Righteousness. The deepest love we’ll ever know in this life is pure and righteous and just and it is all demonstrated and explained from Genesis to Revelation. Sure, religion has exploited people in the name of love, ripped them off, abused them, lied and deceived the sheep and then sacrificed them on the alter of tradition… but that doesn’t change the nature of the Father’s Perfect Love poured out for you and I.

So what we want to do here is define love. We need a truthful definition without the religious and cultural cliché’s and societies modernistic crowd mentality thinking. How about it? Want to give it a try? Where are you going to reach to get that definition? In your life long experience with love? In how you love others? In how someone loves you?

I’m rather afraid that you and I are going to come up a bit short so let’s pull out all the stops and try this again.

My beloved, let us love one another: because love is from Elohim; and whoever loves, is born of Elohim and knows Elohim. Because Elohim is love; and whoever does not love, does not know Elohim. 1 John 4:7-8.

May the Love of Mashiyach Yeshua,

and our Heavenly Father YHWH abide in you always.

With love,

Shalom U’Vrachot,

Baruch Ben Daniel

PS there are 280 other places in the Bible that teach about love… :)